I have been in RLC for over a year now, and I have seen many ways that work when talking to the ladies, and hundreds of ways that don't.  I sometimes just sit and watch men and their different ways to approach women, and can tell pretty quickly if they are going to get shot down.

There are so many ways to approach ladies in RLC.  And a lot of times I see or hear about things that men do that are just not right in so many ways.  See if you can pick out the best ways to approach a lady out of this list:

1. Stand in her face and say "Wanna Fuck?"
2. Tell her you love her, and ask her to take a walk with you
3. Approach her naked
4. PM her without permission
5. Interrupt during a conversation she is having in GC with someone else
6. Say "Hi" and smile

If you said all of those were good, you flunk.  The only good on in that list is #6.

There are a couple of things to take into account before you even approach a lady. 

First thing, is she with someone?  You want to know if she has a boyfriend, husband, girlfriend, or even wife.  All of these are possibilities in RLC (hell, even RL).  You might also want to know if they are even interested in guys.  If they are any of these, walk away, or be resolved to only be a friend.  Do not think you can get them to change, it isn't worth your wasted effort.  But how do you find this stuff out?  That is easy, check out their profile.  And if you cannot see their profile, that is a sign that they do not want to be bothered, either.

Second thing to take into account when approaching someone, are they already engaged in a conversation with someone else?  If they are, do not horn in on them, that is just rude.  Remember how I said I would watch people in a room?  I am also watching conversations, to see if they say something that sparks my interest.  If I do see something, I will only make a short comment on it, and see where it goes.  Do NOT PM a woman, unless you have asked and RECEIVED permission to do so.  PMing is like whispering in someone's ear.  If you had an annoying, unattractive woman (yes, they exist) come up and whisper in your ear, 'Hey, Baby, how about you and me get a room?', would you like it.  Yes, I know... some of you are saying "Hell, Yeah!", but I hope you get my point.  I think we will post on PM etiquette later.

Something else to consider when approaching a lady is this, is she sitting on someone's lap?  If she is, keep walking.  Would you like it if your girl was on your lap, and some guy walked up and started hitting on her?  I bet not.  Even if that guy is only a friend.  She is there for a reason.  Whether it is comforting a friend, or just trying not to be hit on by a bunch of guys.

Now you are saying, "Web, you just took away everything I do, you took all the fun away".  But I say, "Don't worry, it is easy to meet ladies".  Here is what you do.  #1 after all of the above guidelines are followed, you simply find a lady, check out her profile, and say, "Hi, :)".  The smile is important, it really makes the difference.

Once you are chatting with them, and things are going well, do not assume you are getting laid, do not assume you can add her to your friends. Just chat, and see where the chat goes.  Maybe interject a little harmless flirting, and see how she responds.  But, PAY ATTENTION to how she responds.  If she is not responding in a positive manner, POLITELY end the conversation.  Ask her to be a friend, if that is what you want.  DO NOT PUSH IT.  It is critical to listen, at all times.  In the beginning, and throughout the entire relationship, whether it is 2 minutes long, or a lifetime.

After reading through this article again.  There is one main theme to approaching women in RLC, and you can even take it to RL, if you want.  The main theme is to pay attention to what is going on at the time.  You pay attention when you see her, make sure she is not otherwise occupied with others.  You pay attention to their profile (ok, you can't do THAT in RL).  You pay attention to what she is saying, and how she is saying it at all times.  This advice can be used in RL, too.  I have seen it work in both places.

I hope that you have read this, and follow the guidelines.  If you do, you will meet some of the best people on the planet.  I have met many women, from all over the world, literally.  They have such varying backgrounds, that I can't even begin to explain.  I get along with each and every one of them.  They all have their unique qualities that I like, and I continue to keep in touch as best as I can.  If you follow these guidelines, you will have the same luck as I have had with meeting the ladies in RLC.

Thanks for listening,
Web.